Staying in vs going out on the farm

Staying in vs going out - Bubbablue and me

Children certainly keep you on your toes. I should have expected that really.  All of last year I moaned that I never saw N at weekends. That he always wanted to be out on the farm.  And often we’d have tears if I suggested he should be coming out somewhere with me because he wanted to stay behind.  But since the Christmas holidays, that seems to have changed.  He’s turned into a home body. Last year, it felt like he… Continue Reading “Staying in vs going out on the farm”

A change in blog focus – no more photos

change in blog focus - Bubbablue and me

I thought this point would happen this time last year, but no.  It’s finally happened and it means all the forward planning I’ve done for the first time for the blog needs reassessing.  N has told me he doesn’t want photos of himself on the blog or social media.  This means a big change in blog focus. Well, I think it will.  I’m still thinking about how it’s going to work without me totally changing what I write about.  I… Continue Reading “A change in blog focus – no more photos”

From fighting to friendship – sibling relationship change

school photo siblings

A siblings relationship isn’t always perfect. Brothers and sisters fight, the competitive spirit comes out and often parents despair.  And there doesn’t seem to be much written about the sibling relationship.  If you ask around friends there’s not always a pattern of age different, girl or boy siblings.  It’s just some siblings get on better than others. Being an only child N doesn’t need to worry about sibling relationships, although he did say the other day ‘it’s a good job I… Continue Reading “From fighting to friendship – sibling relationship change”

Hugging children – should we force kids to hug?

Should we force kids to hug - Bubbablue and me

Reading an article recently on the damage that can be done when forcing children to hug people against their will, made me think about what we did as kids and now with N. Is encouraging hugging children really that bad? I pondered how things change with personal space and comfortableness in hugging as you get older. Various research suggests that it’s damaging to force children to ‘go and give Aunty so and so a hug and/or kiss’. The theory being… Continue Reading “Hugging children – should we force kids to hug?”

Easter Egg hunt at Upton House

Easter egg hunt at Upton House- Bubbablue and me

It’s been a while since I’ve been to our nearby National Trust property, Upton House. And a few years since I took N for a Cadbury easter egg hunt there. The first time we took N’s youngest cousin with us, and this time we invited him along too.  At 8 he’s still willing to look for Easter eggs, and he and N always love being out and about together. With my family membership I could get the nephew in too,… Continue Reading “Easter Egg hunt at Upton House”

6 year old – all about hugs and kisses, love and hearts

Caring kids and all about hugs and kisses - Bubbablue and me

I loved N at 5 years old, but at 6 he’s coming into his own and really is a loving little boy.  My brother was the same as a boy, really loving and caring with our mum, whereas I always held myself at a bit of a distance, hating hugs and kisses. But N is one of those caring boys.  His generosity with hugs and kisses probably goes further than it should.  Definitely at school with teachers and TAs, with… Continue Reading “6 year old – all about hugs and kisses, love and hearts”

Living Arrows 2017 week 7 – blowing bubbles

N has always struggled with blowing bubbles from old fashioned bubbles tubes.  This contraption was in his stocking from Father Christmas. All it needs is a wipe of the bubble solution on the end where there are lots of little holes. It creates tonnes of small bubbles in a non stop stream.  N loves it, me less so.  Yes he can blow lots of bubbles, but those damn little bubbles aren’t ones that pop. They’re a funny glue-y bubble that… Continue Reading “Living Arrows 2017 week 7 – blowing bubbles”

How to get your child to talk about their day

Grinning and ready to chat about school

I love having a chatty son. N loves to talk (I wonder where he gets that from), although he does pick his moments. Sometimes he’ll be quiet and focused, other times he’ll witter on about nothing. Sometimes I tune it out (naughty mummy) although he does usually notice and pulls me up on it. But there’s always one thing that parents want to know about and not all children are forthcoming about sharing. Their school day (or their day at… Continue Reading “How to get your child to talk about their day”

When a nice child becomes a nasty child

When nice children turn into nasty children - Bubbablue and me

After having nearly 6 years of a lovely little boy, N is going through a nasty phase. I don’t think he realises he’s doing it, and from talking to people it sounds like lots of children go through it. But it’s really sad to be on the receiving end of some of the things he says.  It’s strange having his personality transplant moving from nice child to nasty child. We’ve had it lucky so far with him. He’s generally been… Continue Reading “When a nice child becomes a nasty child”

What love is…when you have children

Love is...settig them free - Bubbablue and me

When I was a girl, one of the chores we had to do was the drying up on a Sunday.  Of course it was drying up minus dishwashers.  We always fought over the best tea towels and one of my favourites was the Love Is…cartoon strip one. It was a cartoon of a little couple and a range of lines that showed what love is.  It was started in the 1960s by New Zealander Kim Casali as little notes to… Continue Reading “What love is…when you have children”