Negotiating with kids – for sheep

Negotiating with kids - Bubbablue and me

Parenting advice seems to say to avoid negotiating with kids. I’m not sure I agree. We have a lot of negotiations in our house.  Ever since N has grasped the fact that he might be able to get something following a discussion, there’s not much he asks for where he doesn’t back it up.  He doesn’t always get his own way, but teaching children to negotiate and argue their cause is a pretty valuable skill for them to learn.  I… Continue Reading “Negotiating with kids – for sheep”

Making friends and growing up with puppies

Making friends with puppies - Bubbablue and me

Being on a farm means there’s lots of animals around.  N is certainly learning how to care for them, everything about them, and an appreciation of them.  But most of the animals are livestock rather than pets.  Even the dogs are working dogs (well, apart from the old or gun shy ones).  But get new puppies on the farm, and it’s like having a pet for the short time before they start training and the OH gets stroppy that we’re… Continue Reading “Making friends and growing up with puppies”

Summer fun bucket list for kids and families

Summer of fun family bucket list - Bubbablue and me

Summer holidays are a bit of a mish mash for us, what with work and harvest.  The OH never informs me in advance of his plans so knowing when he can have N with him at work and when I need to sort out holiday club is always a mystery.  I think this year I may have 3 weeks of holidays off work, and potentially a couple of days of flexi-leave if I can manage the days I’m working well. … Continue Reading “Summer fun bucket list for kids and families”

Child development leaps and bounds

A month of huge child developmental leaps - Bubbablue and me

When you have a baby or toddler, the development leaps and the amount they learn is huge each month. Then once they’re older, at school, those milestones slow down. Or rather, they don’t slow down, but they’re more gradual, and there’s fewer large obvious milestones for them to complete. Learning to ride a bike – tick, age 4 Starting school – tick, age 4 ¾ Losing the first tooth – tick, age 5 (tooth 8 now wobbly a year later!)… Continue Reading “Child development leaps and bounds”

Ode to an only child – is only child syndrome real?

Only child syndrome, is it real- - Bubbablue and me

When I was a child, only children were a mystery to me.  I thought I didn’t really know any.  Because all my friends were mostly 1 of 2 children, with the occasional 4 thrown in.  But it wasn’t until secondary school age when I realised I knew 2.  Yes 2.  One at dancing, and one at school.  None through music or sport, most seemed to have a sibling.  And similar with my brother’s friends.  Even at uni, I knew very… Continue Reading “Ode to an only child – is only child syndrome real?”

Easter Egg hunt at Upton House

Easter egg hunt at Upton House- Bubbablue and me

It’s been a while since I’ve been to our nearby National Trust property, Upton House. And a few years since I took N for a Cadbury easter egg hunt there. The first time we took N’s youngest cousin with us, and this time we invited him along too.  At 8 he’s still willing to look for Easter eggs, and he and N always love being out and about together. With my family membership I could get the nephew in too,… Continue Reading “Easter Egg hunt at Upton House”

Helping kids have broader life experiences – trip to Blenheim Palace

Broader life experiences and a day trip to Blenheim Palace - Bubbablue and me

I’ve said it before, if N could stay on the farm all the time helping out he would. He’d be quite happy trailing his dad around, or his uncle.  And apart from wanting to go on holidays, he would happily forego any days out with me.  Obviously this makes me sad.  I don’t get to spend much time with him as it is being at work and with school, so weekends are precious.  But more than that I want him… Continue Reading “Helping kids have broader life experiences – trip to Blenheim Palace”

6 year old – all about hugs and kisses, love and hearts

Caring kids and all about hugs and kisses - Bubbablue and me

I loved N at 5 years old, but at 6 he’s coming into his own and really is a loving little boy.  My brother was the same as a boy, really loving and caring with our mum, whereas I always held myself at a bit of a distance, hating hugs and kisses. But N is one of those caring boys.  His generosity with hugs and kisses probably goes further than it should.  Definitely at school with teachers and TAs, with… Continue Reading “6 year old – all about hugs and kisses, love and hearts”

The birthday interview with a 6 year old

Birthday interview with a 6 year old

Last year I was really impressed with N’s willingness to do one of the ‘interview with’.  He even agreed to do it on camera.  And for the first time I got more out of him than previously.  So I had high hopes that turning 6 years old would provide even more insight into my son. But no.  Although he did agree prior to his birthday that we could do an interview, he then refused to do a video.  And we… Continue Reading “The birthday interview with a 6 year old”

The benefits of children – usefulness at home

hairdressing and head rub - Bubbablue and me

I never thought I’d have children when I was younger. I changed my mind over wanting them but I’m still not a baby person. And to be honest, some children are cute, funny or great for conversation, but most I can take them or leave them.  I can understand children more and talk to them, but would still rather have them once they’re communicating well (and are potty trained). Other than the fact he’s my child and obviously I love… Continue Reading “The benefits of children – usefulness at home”