I loved N at 5 years old, but at 6 he’s coming into his own and really is a loving little boy. My brother was the same as a boy, really loving and caring with our mum, whereas I always held myself at a bit of a distance, hating hugs and kisses. But N is one of those caring boys. His generosity with hugs and kisses probably goes further than it should. Definitely at school with teachers and TAs, with his teacher last year saying that he was always having to bring him round to the side when N wanted to hug him. N still gets excited about seeing the TAs and teachers although I’m sure that will decrease as he gets older. Probably by next school year.
He loves to see his cousins – he and the 8 year old cousin are always giving each other a hug when they see each other. In between arguing what game they’re going to play. And both aunts are always treated to a big cuddle, one in the playground at pick up time. I wonder sometimes what other parents think, whether they realise she’s a family member or just a random mum he always wants to hug. He’ll also give the nursery staff at after school club hugs when he leaves. There’s no worries about having to force him to hug people when saying thank you. If it’s someone he knows well and likes, he’ll be volunteering a hug. It mostly seems to be a boy thing from what I’ve seen, with some of his other friends doing the same after school. Although there are a couple of girls he’ll also hug. One his friend from across the road – mostly because they’re being boisterous and just hugging for the hell of it. And the other a reception friend who does tennis. A lot of them went through a dog role playing game at school, where some were owners and others dogs. And this little girl he calls ‘doggy’ and sometimes they hug at tennis. Although mostly they just stand next to each other and N rubs her head as though she’s a dog. It’s very funny if a little odd. But hey, imaginations are a great thing as long as they’re all fine with it. They all seem to muck in together, and there’s an awful lot of hugging going on across the various friendship groups at tennis. It’s like a mutual appreciation society. Very amusing to watch. I mentioned before in my paper outline activity post about N drawing a big heart on himself and saying it was because he loves a lot of things. It’s sweet that he understands that loving something isn’t something to be introverted about, that he can share what he likes. At home he’s very forthcoming with his hugs and kisses. He still likes to snuggle up and sit on the sofa watching tv with his dad. Or he wants to squash himself into my chair with me to watch a film or do something on the laptop with me. But most of all he’s very generous with his kisses. He’s very proud that he gives dry kisses, no licky kisses or slobbery wet ones like he used to as a 2 year old. He’ll chase the OH around because the OH thinks it’s weird having all the kisses with his child. At first N was a bit upset because daddy wouldn’t let him kiss him. I couldn’t really explain why, because it’s not wrong when your child wants to give you a kiss and show his love for his parents. Daddy’s weird and doesn’t like kisses! Hmmm. Now N just sees it as a game and teases him with kisses instead. With me, N will sometimes come over and give me a kiss on my forehead or cheek if I’m sitting down somewhere. But at bedtime he requests ‘hug, kiss on the lips, hug’. It’s rare he doesn’t ask. I’m going to make the most of him wanting to hand out hugs and kisses before he gets too embarrassed about doing it. And I’ll never tire of him wanting to hold my hand when we’re out and about too. It turns out that the mother and son relationship is really important in teaching them to love and have good relationships in future. So I’m all for making sure N knows that showing his love to people who want or need it is a good thing. Are your children demonstrative with their hugs and kisses? Or are they more restrained? How old were they when they stopped wanting them?
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I think that’s really sweet and you should definitely continue to nurture this. Peachy is 16 months old and not much of a hugger. She’s a very independent baby, always has been, and she’s much too busy for sitting around and snuggling. But she does come over for the occasional hug, she just doesn’t want them to take up too much time. It’s a quick pause for a snuggle and then back to adventuring. #SharingtheBlogLove
Ah yes, so much for them going on at that age, so easily distracted. I’m definitely making sure I encourage it.
Awww so lovely. My 2 year old has suddenly got much more affectionate and how shouts “cuddles” and runs at me and hangs on for dear life. I love it. Wish I could bottle up the feeling! #SharingtheBlogLove
It does make you feel all warm inside doesn’t it. Really cute
My little man was four in December and he loves ‘huggles’ with his Mummy more than anything He seems to be growing up so fast and I get sad when I think that it may not last much longer, but your post has made me realise that just because he gets older it doesn’t mean he won’t want to give me cuddles. I hope he doesn’t. Because they’re the best thing in the world. #sharingthebloglove
Alice is a very affectionate girl and always has been, she will sit as close as she can to me and is forever hugging and kissing me. There was a time with Holly when I thought she wasn’t going to be as affectionate as her sister and that I would have to work harder for the hugs and kisses. But since Christmas she has turned into the most loving little girl and gives the biggest bear hugs ever. I hope they never go. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove
You’re lucky, you get double the love and it’ll go on for longer! Thanks for stopping by
This is so gorgeous – my boy is the same and from what I have experiences, it is definitely a boy thing! #sharingthebloglove
I think you’re probably right. Girls are much for independent. I liken girls to cats and boys to dogs in the way they work with their ‘owners’
J (our eldest) is less likely to hug these days unless asked to but my little lady is all over me still which I love.
It’s definitely a case of making the most of it while we can
That’s so lovely! Max is all about the hugs too, I love when he just flings his arms around your neck and says ‘cuddle!’ (It used to be ‘cuggle’, which I think may have been even cuter!) I hope he still does it when he’s 6, although I guess there’s always going to be a limit on when he’ll feel hugs are acceptable! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove
They are cute. I think boys are so much more cuddly than girls
This is such a lovely post. I think he should be proud of his dry kisses! Toddler slobber is not nice 😉