When I was a child, I didn’t really see myself as growing up. And I don’t think there was a particular age I thought of as being grown up.
Maybe on leaving university.
Or getting married.
Or having children.
As I couldn’t see myself doing either of the last two, I was pretty safe in always being young!
Having birthdays and being a year older never really got me down like some people. It’s just another year. Another year of not feeling any older. Even having N, I don’t feel much older than I did 10 years ago. I’m just wiser, and more confident of standing up for my views (although I always did anyway).
But I’m definitely turning into my mother. At least in some of the things I say. And I think most mums would say the same. Hearing phrases their mums said to them coming out of their own mouths to their own children.
While I definitely don’t feel like I’m 40, there are certain activities and things I now like that I think I’ve grown into. And talking to my best friend, she says the same.
Signs of growing up
1, Changing music tastes
Turning off Radio 1 and moving to Radio 2. I made the switch years ago due to having a long commute and needing a good travel bulletin without changing commercial stations every time the signal went. I also find that now I appreciate and am happy listening to more country music and folk (I always had pretty eclectic music tastes, but now they’ve broadened even more).
2, Going to the cinema on your own
Many people would be horrified at the thought of doing this, but try it. The first time I did it, I thought it was really liberating. And you can leave when you want instead of sitting through (or not) the credits. You can also leave, thinking or enjoying the film in your own way, instead of being forced to dissect the performances and plot.
The same applies for the theatre. Although you do need to be prepared for some odd looks.
3, Getting National Trust membership
It seems a lot of younger people are now members, especially those with children. Yes, you still see lots of elderly people, but in supporting the charity and historic sites in our country, we get bargain days out and lots of space for children to run around in.
4, Appreciating flowers and gardens
Note I’ve not said enjoying gardening. I still don’t have any interest in doing that, but I love to walk in gardens and photograph flowers.
5, Appreciating art forms previously scorned
I’ve always loved dance, but contemporary dance really wasn’t something I enjoyed watching. Now I find I’m happy to watch and enjoy contemporary dance. Although art is still a struggle and not something I’m particularly enamoured with.
6, Choosing shoes and clothes for comfort over fashion
And that largely means flat shoes (apart from nights out). At the moment I’m begrudging the fact that I need to buy a dress for a black tie 40th that I’ll likely only ever wear once, and will also need a pair of shoes because I only have pretty shoes which are dance shoes (indoor only) or flat sandals.
7, Finding a lipstick which suits
In the past I’ve tried lipsticks but they all look like I’m a 5 year old with her mum’s lipstick on so I stuck with lipgloss or stain. But finally I’ve found a lipstick that looks ok. It’ll take a bit of time to get used to, but for nights out I’m going to feel quite glam. Once I’ve worked out how to keep it off my teeth.
8. Becoming more interested in politics
Until a couple of general elections ago I wasn’t really that interested in politics. But now I’ll happily watch news and documentaries about it. Read websites to glean information prior to the elections. And even be engrossed in the US election. I think as I’ve got older I’ve got more interest in the future, what’s going to happen for our children, and I’ve got more want to make a sensible decision. Plus of course, there’s more coverage in the traditional and social media
What makes you feel grown up?
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