Children’s parties are a nightmare. I’m not sure that anyone would say they’re without hassle.
I am being fairly relaxed about N’s ‘non-birthday’ party (apart from potentially having to do a few sun dances to pray that it’ll be dry weather for at least a couple of days before and on the day) and am treating it a bit like a mass play date. Which really is what it is because his birthday’s earlier in the year and parties don’t really happen then due to booked up diaries and potential poor weather. So a summer ‘party’ does the job.
I mentioned in my party planning post before that working out the invites was ‘interesting’. Well, writing them was the easy part. The hard part has been since then and keeping N under control.
My tip ⇒ ask your child who they play with, who are their friends and who they like. Invite those, and then don’t tell your child. Send the invites surreptitiously via nursery staff and don’t let your child post or hand out the invites themselves.
In reality I asked N who he wanted to invite. Most seemed sensible although there was one on the list that I’ve never taken to (although nursery staff assure me he’s ok) and another who I’ve rarely heard about (and then I hear horror stories about…nooooo!)
Then we went to his 2 nurseries to put the party invitations in people’s drawers. All well and good because it was quiet and no one else was around. But then I hear from one nursery that N’s been telling a girl that she’s coming to his party…and she wasn’t on his invite list. Quick check that evening as to whether he really wanted her to come. Yes, so another invite duly written and delivered the next day. I’m sure no one noticed!
At the other nursery, N decided to take some stickers in. And promptly went round sticking stars on people who he told were invited to his party. Let’s hope they thought he was role playing and that it wasn’t real!
Another day he told me he’d invited all the nursery staff. And the next I heard he’d been telling the staff that they were invited so they could bring the ‘pretty girls’ to the party (I blame his dad for putting ideas like that into his head!)
Of course doing the invites isn’t as bad as awaiting the replies. For our NCT friends and non-nursery, I’d done a Facebook invite so they had a heads up about dates before the invites were sent out. But the others because of the long lead time we’re still waiting on quite a few. It makes me impatient. Then when I’m giving an update to N about who’s coming along, he wants to know all the others and then why isn’t xy&z coming. He doesn’t grasp that people need to plan and work out diaries, and that not everyone will be able to come.
It has made me laugh though because when I’ve said that so and so is coming, he’s been a bit distracted and not been that concerned about it. But if someone can’t come….he’s not been happy.
According to N, anyone who says they can’t go should be cancelling their other plans. He’s decided that his uncle and dad will go and collect children because then they’ll be able to come. He doesn’t seem to listen when I tell him that people often have other plans that mean his party isn’t the be all and end all.
Hopefully by the time the party comes around he won’t go asking why people have turned up.
Have you had any awkward moments around party invites involving your children?