Gifts for teachers.
Do you do them or not?
The last day of term before Christmas I spotted children going into school with gifts, and with horror realised that it hadn’t even occurred to me to sort a gift out. We weren’t totally rubbish. N did do cards.
I know in the past I’ve discussed it with other mums as the children left their nurseries to go to school. Lots did do gifts. We didn’t.
I debated doing chocolates or making something. But at his day nursery that would have needed to cover a lot of people who’d looked after N while he was there, and he’d likely be going back there to do some holiday clubs. His nursery school he was leaving nursery, but would be going back to after school club there.
School’s a bit different. We’re not directly paying for him to go there unlike nurseries. There’s only (probably) 2 people, a teacher and teaching assistant to give gifts to.
When we were at school, it would have been extremely rare for children to take in gifts. Even when I left primary school I don’t recall having taken a gift in. Nowadays it seems to be more the norm.
I remember being at a teacher friend’s house when she opened the cupboard with all the previous Christmas and end of term gifts she’d been given. Even months later, full of biscuits, chocolates, wine, photo frames, plants and more. Most of which she would never get through. Most people want to declutter and have less stuff, not 30 odd gifts that won’t get used or eaten.
I think if N wanted to take a gift then we’d have to do something handmade and small. Maybe some fudge, biscotti, or a little decorated box of seeds.
The alternative is to give something back to the teacher for their class. Last year I spotted people giving a creatively made up bundle of pens and stationery which I thought would be a good idea, especially for a preschool.
I’m still not that comfortable about giving presents to teachers. Now there are teaching assistants to think about too, and morning club supervisors, after school club. The list goes on. I think if a teacher has done something to really solve a problem going on with N, or really been an inspiration etc, that’s where I’d be more comfortable in giving a small gift to say thank you, but not for Christmas. For that, I think a card suffices.
Maybe schools should have a little tip box like at the newsagents or hairdressers, and everyone gets a cut, or that goes towards their christmas night out.
Do your children give presents to their teachers for Christmas? Is it the norm in your schools? What kind of things do they give?